OM AT STARTE EN VIRKSOMHED MED SIN KÆRESTE – OG HVORDAN DET UDFORDRER FORHOLDET
- josephine874
- 18. okt. 2017
- 4 min læsning
12 timers arbejdsdage, store beslutninger der skal tages på kort tid, modgang og en uendelige række af udfordringer. Det er ikke for sjov at starte en ny virksomhed – og slet ikke med sin kæreste.
Hvordan går man lige fra at have hver sit arbejdsliv, som man lægger fra sig i garderoben, inden man træder rigtigt ind i sit fælles hjem, hvor hygge og kvalitetstid er i fokus til nu at tilbringe alle døgnets 24 timer sammen – over et lille bitte skrivebord og med begge hjerner fyldt med en eneste ting: business!
Da Andreas og jeg begyndte, at snakke om at starte en virksomhed sammen var jeg egentlig slet ikke nervøs. Jeg var overbevist om, at vi kunne klare alt sammen, og at udfordringerne bare kunne komme an. Den holdning har jeg stadig, men jeg må også indrømme, at det har været en større udfordring at starte en virksomhed sammen, end jeg havde regnet med.
Når man starter en ny virksomhed, så fylder det sindssygt meget i en. Man arbejder hårdt på det hver dag, og tankerne svømmer konstant omkring projektet, de næste udfordringer, udvirkling og drømmen om hvor man gerne vil ende. Når man så pludselig er to i et forhold, der på samme tid er så besatte af et projekt, så er der ingen til at bringe andre emner på banen eller kræve, at man lægger computeren væk for at bruge tid på hinanden og forholdet for en stund. Man knokler bare der ud af.
På den ene side er det fedt at være sammen om så stort et projekt, fordi man kan dele opturerne, har den mest loyale partner man kan tænke sig, og så viser det også noget om ens forhold, når man kan være uenige, men stadig forblive de bedste venner, og at man er i stand til at komme godt igennem modgang og frustration sammen. MEN – det er også en hammer stor udfordring for forholdet.
Forleden kom jeg til et punkt, hvor jeg ikke synes, at det var sjovt længere. Jeg brænder sindssygt meget for vores projekt, men jeg vil også gerne have min kæreste – og ikke kun en business partner. Heldigvis kan Andreas og jeg snakke om alt, og vi var begge to enige om, at vi er nødt til aktivt at tænke over også at have et privatliv ved siden af hele det her projekt. – men det er sindssygt svært. Så sent som i dag sad vi og spiste frokost, og det var nærmest umuligt ikke at snakke arbejde, fordi det fylder så meget i os begge, og vi er så tændte på projektet.
Vores nye arbejdsdag er stadig rigtig når ja – ny. Så det tager nok lidt tid, inden vi finder den helt rigtige måde at fordele tiden mellem arbejde og privatliv, men så længe vi er bevidste om det, så er jeg sikke på at vi nok skal finde en god balance.
English: 12 hours of work everyday, big decisions, pressure, adversity and an endless number of challenges. Starting a new business is not easy! – and definitely not when you start the business with your boyfriend.
We are used to work separately, and after a long day at work we come home and the time at night is revered for quality time with each other. Now after starting a company together we spend all 24 hours of the day together, sitting at a small desk with both our minds running around one thing: The business!
When Andreas and I started talking about starting a business together, I was not really nervous at all. I was convinced that we could do everything together. I stil believe this, but I must also admit that it has been a bigger challenge to start a business together, than I imagined.
When you start a new business, it’s all you can think about. You work hard every day, and your thoughts constantly running around the project, the next challenges, and where you want to go with the project. But when you work with your partner on the same projekt, you are both completely absorbed by the project, and there is no one to bring other subject to the table to talk about or someone who ask you to put away the computer and spend some quality time instead. You just keep working.
On one hand, it’s nice to be able to work with your boyfriend on a project like this. You will have the most loyal partner and it also adds another layer to your relationship. It’s nice to experience that we can disagree, but still remain best friends and that we are also able to get trough tuff times and frustration together. BUT! It’s also a really big challenge and a test of the relationship.
The other day I came to a point where I did not think it was fun anymore. I’m crazy about our project, but I also need to have my boyfriend – and not just a business partner. Fortunately, Andreas and I can talk about everything and we both agreed that we have to think more about how we make sure to reserve some time for each other and the relationsship, where it’s not all about work. But just as easy it is to agree on this, it’s just as hard to make sure that it actually happens. Today when we where having lunch, and it was almost impossible not to talk about work. We both think so much about this project, and it’s hard not to talk and discuss the challenges that we are facing or the ideas that we continuously get.
.Our new working day is still year – new. It will take some time before we find the right way to divide work and privacy, but as long as we are aware of it, I’m sure we’ll find a good balance.
// Josephine
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